Who Dares to Touch My Daughter?

Scavengers and savages are ruling the world. Come and take what your want. Sexual freedom is there for all of us. Taking is interpreted as giving and the gift becomes a debt. Support for sexual freedom is everywhere and victims keep quiet for fear of shame and blame.

Young girls are getting raped, futures destroyed and destinies taken. Women with a path to glory are racked to shambles by the sexual revolution. Where we used to brush our urges under the carpet, we let them lose today.

Those girls have fathers and those fathers believe the same lie. “Let those girls experience the pleasures of this world”, they say. “Let them have fun while they are young. It’s 2016, for crying out loud.”


What does a father think?

Are you a dad? Do you think your daughter should go wild before settling down? I call you a coward. You deny your destiny as a protector, a mandate given to you by God himself. He entrusted you with a part of the crownship of creation, a jewel to be guarded and protected.

You bought into the lies of man, proclaiming the freedoms of their urges as natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Where do you think will those men takes their urges? Fueled with the conviction of liberation, they will not take no as an answer.

And who will be there to protect your girl? Will it be her 15 year old boyfriend? Will it be sleazy uncle Jack? Those guys believe the same lies everyone else bought into. And they look at your daughter’s body without suspicion.


Mighty protector

Father, your role is not only to protect your girl from lies but also from physical destruction. One rape will change the little girls outlook on life, how she sees herself and the worth she has in her father’s eyes.

The German punk band “Die Ärzte” released a hit son in the early 90’s that owned the charts for months. The translation of the title is “men are pigs”. The song is all about the depravity of men and how they‘d do anything to get a girl to sleep with them. The doctors, as the band would be called in English, proceeded to tell us how everything nice about guys is a feeble lie.

People were humming the tune and singing along. We loved it because the song spoke truth coated in entertainment. An artist can say things a politician never could. The song painted a picture of who men would be if they didn’t control themselves. It became successful because it resonated with what we all feel inside.

Without the constraints of faith and society, men’s fantasy runs lose. We are mighty yet we are weak. We will not restrain ourselves without a reason. Love, fear of punishment or fear of rejection are good pointers to not act upon our urges. The reasons man doesn’t run wild are many but there always has to be a reason to not do what our urges command.


Changes in society

We live in a society without absolutes. Genders are fluid and fear of offense is glaring at freedom. We are trembling at the thought of setting boundaries on individuals. Any definition about me is only up to me. We withdraw our boundaries and a white man can become a tall Chinese woman in a second.

We have allowed anyone to be what they desire to be. We removed the reasons society has put into place to act decent. We are at the brink of letting everyone define their own right or wrong. Who am I to tell you what you can or can’t do?


The failure of dads

Here is where the fathers start to fail. We are to afraid to speak up against a dude’s freedom to use the same bathroom as our daughters. We are terrified to confront anyone’s freedom because that’s the way society is evolving.

The issue is not the letting people live their lives. It’s about the protection of everyone else. We know in our hearts that these things are wrong. We condemn ourselves for a failure to stand up. We’re in a war of mind against heart, justification of failure against buried yet unshakable truth.

Molestation, rape, date-raping. Call it whatever you want. Our daughters are trapped because they never saw us stepping in for them. They are insecure because their dads never took a stand against the injustices hurled at them. Everyone does it, everyone thinks it’s fine. And no one ever said anything against it. And our girls suffer in silence.

We are trapped in a cycle that only radical truth can break. We are spinning ourselves and reject every last bit of common sense in the spirit of political correctness. We are too deep in this mindset to simply go with it and adjust along the way.

No. Because of our silence in the past, the fight is harder now. Our failure to speak up will cost our daughters dearly. It now requires more courage then ever to confront the threats our daughters have to face every day. The mild advice doesn’t cut it. The answer has to be as radical as the push against us. No one pays attention to the compliant.



Change can only happen if we accept our failures. “It’s not so bad” will not get us anywhere. But once we admit we messed up, once we align ourselves with the hinting of our heart, change can came quickly.

Owning our mistakes lets us stand whole-heartedly behind our new goals. Let’s empower the girls we love and act as the shield we were made to be. And if needs be, break the noses of those who embraced their “right” to live a life without restrictions.

Stand up now, mighty men. It is only to late when you’re six feet under ground. Shake off the dust from your eyes, raise you head towards the heavens and roar for the pain of man’s daughters. Where were her protectors? Where are the one’s she looked for help?

They are here now. No more games. No more running.

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How a World Without Sin Would Transform Your Life

If Adam and Eve had not sinned, our lives would be different today. There would be no shame and no pain. We would still be walking in the cool of the garden and wait in ecstasy every day to learn more about our God.

We long for a perfect world, and as children we have hope for it. We dream of paradise and a world without war, where people get along, and love determines every action. This is a place with no fear, back-biting or enmity, no punches in the gut and no fiery darts to the heart.

Our dream is to live in a world where we don’t have to worry about attacks from the outside. We can sing and dance, rejoice without holding back and laugh until our belly hurts. We can be who we are made to be because we are accepted.

Then we grow up and realize that this dream can never happen in this world. We read that even Paul stopped thinking like a child when he became a man.

So we bury our longings and try to grow up, we adapt to this world and start to hold back. Hurt and shame were good teachers of reality and we learned fast. And so we forget the dream of the perfect world we once had as little children.

The effects of sin on our lives

As believers, we strive to live a life without sin because we know that sin is the root of all evil. We were taught not to sin, and so we do our best to keep it together. God would be disappointed, and it would impact our relationship with him.

So we go through life avoiding sin at all cost. We live in the now and look forward, scouring the future for possible temptations. We run from project to project, lifting the weight of the church on our frail shoulders.

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In all of this, we have the past still buried in our soul. Where did the disappointment of our world come from? We didn’t learn about the world’s imperfection in the classrooms or Sunday school.

No, we learned about the world from the world itself. It was it shoved right into our faces. The world didn’t sit us down to explain us it’s inner workings. We experienced its cruelty first hand. Ridicule and shame, other people’s sin against us and the scars it left. They ate themselves right into our core.

No wonder we like the future. It is unwritten, and it seems we have control over it. It is open and undetermined, unlike the horrors we have experienced in the past.

In the grip of the past

Adam and Eve were filled with joy because they lived the perfection of our childhood dreams. There were no bad experiences that reminded them to calm down. Build up trust first and then open up. They didn’t need any of that because they were never hurt.

Our past made us who we are today. We can’t undo our experiences, but God can heal the pain. Even secular psychology has success in helping people deal with their issues. How much more should the living God make an impact on us?

The journey towards wholeness

As a kid, I was bullied. Massacred, I should say. Day in, day out, the same story every day. My stomach tightened, and the air sucked out of me. My head turned blank, and I couldn’t form a clear thought.

What do you get if all a kid knows Is cruelty? Payback on the world and revenge on its inhabitants. The fruits are anger and hatred, and a misfit turns into what he hated the most.

Being in control is better than being controlled. Crushing is better than being crushed. Hating first makes being hated tolerable. Out of my hurt came pain for many. Multiplication the church can learn from.

Yes, I had a choice not to hate. Yes, I could have chosen not to be mean to others when I got older. But I was sinned against as a child and my past impacted my now. We can’t make things undone and wish the bad away.

Pain was my constant companion and my only satisfaction in life was to see the same pain afflicted on others. All people are the same I thought.


At last, there is hope

God had mercy on his beloved son and sent me someone who told me the truth. Not that I shouldn’t do bad things but that the lies I believed are not true. She told me about God’s love and his protection in the midst of every trauma I went through.

His love is stronger than the forces of evil, and his love will always win. Even though the people I trusted the most disappointed me, he would never leave me nor forsake me.

Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! That’s what God says to me, and that’s what God says to you.

I knew that he loved me, but I couldn’t accept it because of the lies I believed. You can proclaim your love a thousand times but what matters is if I believe you.

And I believed what they told me in the past. I trusted my experiences.


Returning to Eden

Revisiting your past is painful, but it is the only way to get free from it. Our beliefs color how we see reality and our pain from the past molded our beliefs.

It is possible in this life to be like Adam and Eve again. We can’t live in their world, but we can live in their state of mind. We can be entirely free because God can heal us.

For me, this is a long process. I have not arrived myself yet, but I know one day, I will. There will be a day where people’s opinions won’t matter, and their words and control attempts will not impact me any longer.

We can be free because God has promised this to all his children. He is the great healer and no matter what happened in your life, you are not beyond repair.

We have a choice. Salvation is free, but wholeness is not. It takes work and willingness, time and effort. The route is stony and full of thorns and thistles, but the goal is worth it.

One Choice That Can Change Your Life

Sin and character flaws have the tendency to hide. They are visible to everyone but us. We don’t recognize our faults because they have established themselves as patterns from an early age. We only do what we have down all our lives.

Growing up in a liberal European city, the suppression of women was usually not a topic. Equal treatment was an established state of mind because of the brave ones who went before me.

Unfortunately, the pain of suppression made many fighters bitter. Equality became superiority and men were belittled and looked down upon.

I ended up not understanding and confusion ended in rejection. I carried many wounds, wounds that never healed. I blamed the mistakes of a few on a gender as a whole.

I dragged my views with me into my marriage. I thought I was free, but I was not. I had no one to set me straight, not even my bride.

Complete love can only happen in the absence of control, but control is the essence of an insecure person. Our marriage became an angling and dangling without end, fighting a war where there are no winners.


The human makeup

Humans are not raised in a void. We come into this world as an empty canvas, but we don’t stay that way. As children, we didn’t develop any filters yet on what is right or wrong. We just soaked up everything we hear and see, good and bad.

We build our “default state of mind” from the building blocks of our early years. We have no framework to compare our information to because a framework is what we are putting together during that time.

Our parents teach us how to see the world. If mom is not worth a dime in our household and her whole purpose in life is to serve dad, we don’t perceive that as weird. We understand that this is how things are done because this is all we know.

As children, we don’t know that other people do things different. Even as adults, if we move from an abusive home into an abusive relationship, things don’t seem odd to us.

Yes, there is pain and tears, but it’s all strangely familiar. We can use the same coping mechanisms that we developed as children, and we find a weird sense of satisfaction in knowing what to expect. Familiarity gives us a strange sense of security.


What to do if things get shaken up?

Everything shifts once we hear that our normal is not the way it is supposed to be. Once our minds catch on to the idea that our suffering is not because of us but because we don’t live according to God’s design, we are faced with a choice.

The new understanding marks the beginning of a journey and we can decide on the direction. Once the conviction of truth is introduced into our lives, it is our choice how we handle that. We can’t undo revelation, but we have to live with how we deal with it.

We have the choice to ignore our new perception. In this case, the gold nugget we found will start to get dusty, and the excitement over truth will dull down. We still know what we know, but it slips into the archives of our brain, into a dark area where we are not reminded of our defeat.

The other choice we have is to act. Responsibility enters our lives along with revelation. We have to take action towards freedom. We have to be clear about where we are at that moment, where we want to be in the future and how we plan to get there.

As we take our first steps, we have to understand that revelation is only the beginning. We have to undo a mindset we had for many years. Our biggest obstacle will be our doubt.

We formed our emotions based on what we believed so far. When we change our mindset, the rest of us has to catch up. Even our perception of right and wrong might be completely off at first.


Starting with baby steps

Failure is part of the package as well. We are trying out new things and often we don’t know how to react in a given situation. We identify that something is wrong. We might even understand what causes the pain. Still we are unable to cope with it. We just don’t know what to do.

Not knowing how to handle a situation is fine. It takes time to pick up a new skill set. Acting healthy is difficult at first. That’s why it is important that we don’t expect perfection when we start this process. We have to have grace with ourselves and expect setbacks. It is all part of the learning process.

Our minds understand the concept of freedom but walking it out is a process. We have to figure out how to think, act and when to let go.

Freedom is only a choice at first. Walking it out is a commitment. It takes time and effort and is marked with failure. But the goal ahead of us is worth the struggle.

Make sure you are not alone in this. The choice is yours, but the walk is ours.

Why Smart People Fight Christianity

100 years ago, claiming to be a Christian was nothing weird. People understood because most had at least some affiliation with the church. No one would challenge you because they’d know where you are coming from. People got you, and the crowd was with you.

Today, Christians get a glimpse of persecution. You’ll feel the pressure when you raise your voice against gay marriage or express your loyalty to Israel. People will react in anger and project their frustration about their experiences onto you and your faith.

Many of your opponents will focus on debunking Christianity. They accept a Muslim’s outrage after an insult hit their prophet. They push aside the murder, rape, and hatred in the name of Hiduism. Avoid humanities worthlessness as stated by Atheism. But they will claim that the God of the Bible is a merciless warlord.

Christianity is an easy target because it allows us to challenge it. We can research everything the Bible claims and nothing is off limits. One can claim religion’s dead in a Christian society, but try to do the same in Iran or Saudi Arabia.

In the western world, the most common thing associated with religion is Christianity. We don’t hate it for the doctrine but for how we see it play out in our lives. Bad experiences create bad memories and memories are what we base our decisions on.


Proving our convictions

Unfortunately, we all have memories that skew reality. Our personal experience is often not the complete picture. But we are aware of our flawed thinking patterns. That’s why psychologists and therapists are so popular today.

Yet In religious matters, we cope with the pain through reason. We use our bad experiences with Christianity and declare religion as unscientific.

We don’t look for grand arguments. We don’t need to seek the whole truth. All we need is justification for what we already decided to be true.

Simple arguments that seem logical on the surface give us the confidence to close the book on this topic. The less we pursue a subject, the easier it is to be convinced of absolutes.


Simple Reasoning

So we declare God as being non-existent or indifferent at best. “Just look at all this suffering in the world today. A loving God would never allow this to happen”.

Seems legit? Let’s take a look at the freedom God gave humanity. How can one be free to choose good if one is not allowed to choose evil?

Real freedom includes the ability to choose to do the wrong thing. Without the capacity to choose war, murder, and hatred, humanity would never be able to fight for peace, life and love.

We also would not be able to choose or reject God. We can only reject him because he gave us the ability to do so.


Humanities fiber and structure

Logic is bliss and maths and physics are the drivers of success in the 21st century. Our technologies and innovations are at the lowest level nothing but logical declarations.

We had so much success that we think deductive thinking is effortless. After all, the sciences have covered every field of our modern world. We don’t realize that our success has made us blind to the vastness of the unknowns in our lives.

The little we know gives us the confidence to judge the unknown. That’s why it is so easy for us to reject religion. It is the easy way out because if we can deem something to be wrong, there is no reason for exploring it deeper.

If we’d admit that there is truth in Christianity, we couldn’t toss it to the sidelines. The implication would be too huge to ignore.


Confronting the pain

Even if our mind wants to believe, we can’t ignore the hurt, grief and anger we experienced through Christianity. It is a real reason for many to reject Christ.

Most of the people who not only refuse, but hate the Christian faith have a background in it. We activate our filters and project our pain on the Christian belief. They don’t search for where the faith was abused but reject the complete system.

But we can’t blame them. The church has taken the supernatural out of the Bible. We only preach to love our neighbor, but we ignore that Jesus healed the sick and set the captives free. We don’t talk and hardly believe in angels and demons and heaven and hell.

We boiled down prayer to a liturgy. We replaced the cry for broken souls and the healing of nations with repetition while mulling over the grocery list. The passion has died with the truth. It seems that Christ left the church a long time ago.

Without our Savior, what do we have left in Christianity? Empty words and people who build a controllable system. Organized religion with dazzling buildings but with empty seats.

The era of control is over. Social pressure to join a church evaporated and pastors ask themselves what went wrong. The answer is that we ceased to preach the full gospel a long time ago. The only way to get people back is to introduce to them who Jesus was 2000 years ago and still is today.

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Representing well

If the church were the bride God called her to be, people wouldn’t have to make up some scientific fluff to justify the rejection of religion.

People go off of what they see. The church is supposed to be the hands and feet of Jesus. We are meant to represent him in this world.

But what do we do? The same lies blind us as those who argue against Christianity. We rationalize our calling, put in the least amount of effort and get comfortable where we are.

People know that the Church of Jesus Christ doesn’t fulfill her calling. The church is what people grew up in, and they are well aware of what they walked away from.

But there is hope. People check back on what makes them angry. They are not indifferent. They will come back once in a while, just to see what’s up. To see if they are still right.

What will they see?